“She’s way out of my league”

“She’s way-out of my league”

For all our talk about what to do when you meet a woman, whether to use a pickup line, how to talk to her, we haven’t addressed one of the keys you’ll need to get anywhere at all with women. I’m talking about confidence, and without it, you might as well stay home.

This is going to sound obvious and trite to some people, but to others, it’ll bring your game to a whole new level. This is for the guys who constantly come up with excuses for why they shouldn’t just walk right up to that beautiful woman they’ve been eyeing and start a conversation.

“She’s way out of my league.” “I don’t want to bother her.” “What if I screw it up.” “There are a ton of people around her.” Sound familiar? I’m sure you probably know these excuses are just that when you think of them, but you take the easy way out and stay put.

This is something you’re going to have to change if you really want to get yourself out there and meet women by the dozen. And initially, it’s not easy. This is because your confidence, or lack thereof, is something that’s been with you since you were a kid. If you don’t get a confidence boost early, it can be tough to train yourself to be confident later in life, but it is doable, and here’s how to do it.

The first thing to do is to get your head around the concept that yes, you can stick your neck out, hopefully not literally, and meet a woman without the world coming to an end. To do this, you’ll need your imagination. I’m sure you’re conjured up your fair share of fantasies, so this should be easy. When you see a prime candidate, just picture yourself going up to her, introducing yourself and reeling her in, just like that. Let your mind supply the rest. I know; I know; this sounds ridiculous, but bear with me. Do this for a few days.

Conversely, jot down all the bad things that might actually happen when you meet a woman, and be realistic about it. Her summoning a legion of sumo wrestlers that squash you into oblivion is not realistic.

Now think of these two things together. What’s the best thing that could happen? The worst? Most important, even if the worst thing did happen, what would it matter? An hour or a day later, would you even be thinking about it anymore? I doubt it. It should be obvious to you by now that there’s a much better chance of something good happening than something horrible.

And now, you’re up, buddy. Go and do it. Walk up to one of these beauties and say, “hi.” Start a casual conversation. Doesn’t matter whether you’re walking down the street or in the grocery store. (In fact, it’s really easy to have a fluffy, meaningless conversation in a grocery store.) Was it pleasant? Yeah? Well, what are you waiting for? Ask for her number. Just do it!

What happened? Did you get shot down in flames? Did you score? Either way, do it again, and keep doing it for days. The point of this exercise is not to see how many numbers you can get or if women are interested in you, in fact I want you to completely separate yourself to the end result. Nothing’s going to change your confidence when meeting women but regular practice. Pretty soon, it’ll be second nature and you will be comfortable in approaching a women to apply some of the other techniques you will learn here. The point here is just approach and with that you already won.  Enjoy the practice!

See how Sienna suggest you approach here in her Dating Advice Video

Eric Eros

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